A" spiritual PUA" pig-killing scam (after 58 days of massive fraud)

58 days after being cheated and finally have the courage to write out the process of being cheated, before a kind of tear wound to others to see the feeling, do not understand the people will sprinkle salt to laugh at us people silly money to be cheated, not only to face huge debts and physical and mental damage at the same time also face friends and relatives of cynicism, I want to say: "Do not suffer from others, do not comment on his personnel." Do you know that many people who are cheated are also elites in various fields before they are cheated, and they think they will never be cheated. Do you have any idea where the fraud ring is now? Using all kinds of high-tech, precise positioning, syndicate fraud. It is no longer the stage where you say that people are stupid and have more money, so they will be cheated. It is true that being cheated is also because we have weaknesses, so the liar hit the weak link, but who does not have weaknesses? When you judge others as stupid without knowing the full picture, when you point fingers at victims simply because you haven't been lied to, you reveal your own shallowness and lack of empathy. So today I'm Posting my own process to make other victims feel better and to serve as a warning to others, which is kind of meaningful

In order to write this article, I went through all my conversations with the scammers from beginning to end, never thinking that I would fall into such a scam in my lifetime, and I wrote it to tell all the victims that you may have similar experiences to me, what the scammers did to me and said to me may have been experienced by you, in the first week or two that I knew that I was cheated, It is also by constantly looking at the stories of other victims, talking to other victims for their own healing, and I may be more embarrassed and embarrassed than you in this scam. Therefore, I hope that the victim can feel better after looking at the heart, not too much self-blame and self-denial, and come out as soon as possible, of course, even if I can now recall the hoax and uncover my scars a little bit, I can't say that I have come out.

I define this scam as a spiritual PUA, liar with a very clever means to brainwash me step by step, before seeing the news of the spirit of the Peking University girls PUA suicide, I also want to, do not talk about it, now personally experienced just know, when deep in it, others no matter how to pull out, this is the terrible place of the scam. At the end of the scam, when I didn't have money to borrow from my friends, my friends asked me to be careful, my dad also advised me not to put my eggs in a basket, even at that time, because I was blinded by the profit account every day, and the liar was the only superstitious person at that time, friends and family reminded me when I was deaf, then the liar told me to be careful of the liar every day. So those who say that the victims are stupid, stupid, I admit that they are deceived because of limited knowledge, but without experiencing the scam itself, it is difficult to understand why so many victims would believe so much in a scam that seems so obvious to outsiders, and it is difficult to understand how much psychological and emotional trauma this incident brings to the victims, and it is definitely not just a matter of money.

(1) The process of being deceived

This is how I know cheaters, in the national K song app in my song comments, I have always thought that this software is to listen to each other send flowers to support simple interaction, not the kind of dating software, dating software I may guard against a little, so I did not care too much. And I did not work overtime in those few days and had free time in the evening, because a few years ago, several sisters were also met through the group of singing friends, and in the past few years, the relationship was particularly good and did not involve interests, and it was more convenient to talk about unhappy things, so they were used to it and did not care too much. In addition, I was determined to no longer do financial projects and knew the word "kill pig pan", but I did not talk about it. I simply thought that I met a friend online, and I didn't think too much about it. I didn't know this was the beginning of a nightmare, and I didn't know this guy was lying from the very first thing he said to me. At first, I do not love private messages, for he sent a few song exchange words seem not very hate, and then just talk about some no, the liar will appear every day, simply ask questions, there is no information bombing, because I have not deleted friends before the habit, has been very honest friends, thinking that the message is a basic courtesy, So there's a lot of back and forth. The scary thing about scammers is that: Because we are in the national private message chat, I said that I was very busy, cleaning, and then the liar extended this topic and said that it is not so hard to ask aunt can, 300 yuan at a time, clean very thoroughly, and know how to enjoy life, and then said that once aunt left his father to her collection of a bottle of Maotai worth 780,000 yuan broke he did not let him accompany, but heartache that was left to him by his father. The liar will say how filial piety, now want to think if you are also a filial child has resonated, said he is also very miserable, the song of the people is sung to the wife, because the wife had an accident, he and his mother, these years with his daughter has gone to college, because afraid of the child's heart is not comfortable so has not looked for, A person with a little conscience will think how it is like this, how there will be such a person with a conscience, if the victim just suffered similar emotional setbacks, it can be on the same side with him, the image of the liar began to shape is really too sincere, he is a designer in a company (work card pretended to inadvertently send me), It is not that I have not checked his name and company information on the information platform, but I just did not think that the company is not suitable for the right person. Once I read the message did not return, the liar directly said that it was inconvenient not to bother, have the opportunity to add a micro, sent me a two-dimensional code, I was uncomfortable with his profile picture temporarily did not add, he did not force me, the national private letter did not bother me again, so did not perceive the wrong. After a long time, some unhappy things happen and it is not convenient to tell acquaintances, think about this person's age has no good advice, so he added him, this is the beginning of the nightmare! Now think that even if there is if, may still fall into the pit, this is a hit, sooner or later can not escape, today escaped this, tomorrow may encounter another liar, there is no if in the world, and you never know what will happen in the future, can do only accept the reality.

Fraudsters let me invest in the "CITIC Group" of new energy short-term futures, I do not understand this, I think it is the same investment with stock funds, when the Internet search, CITIC Group is real, the project is real, but did not expect the website is cloned, so what I learned is that for their own do not understand the field, must not touch. Because I don't understand, I believe the liar unconditionally, and what the liar says is what it is. Even if I found the online that the futures platform may have a pit, the web page is a little rough, there is a problem with the way to remit money to personal accounts, and even when looking for customer service to add storage, I do not check the ID card information, only report the name and the remittance screenshot, but because I believe in crooks too much, these were ignored by me at that time, thinking of these I want to kill myself, Because I never thought this guy was a liar. I finally told the cheater that I think there is a problem with this gold account, the cheater said to do the outer plate, our account funds can be safe, think of here I want to kill myself. Terrible also, at that time many times suspected, every day to check the information, the brain where there are holes in the friends, the heart feels not quite right, but I do not know why, my mind will unconsciously help the liar round this lie, to convince myself to believe him or be so fooled by the liar in the past, the previous doubt will be completely forgotten. Later, my father woke me up with a word, that is, the problems I consulted friends were problematic, for example, I asked a friend: a friend took me to do futures, the account password is mine, the funds will not be transferred away? Where did the friend who was consulted think that this futures is not that futures, and when the liar called the Cantonese accent is so heavy, it is obviously different from the standard Mandarin of the whole people, (When the liar said that the singing with consonants is not a sore throat and I sang two sentences, I gave him a round back, yes, Hong Kong and Taiwan stars speak Cantonese heavy voice, As well as the highly educated and professional job he created, I could find out if I casually asked the canteen teacher of Sun Yat-sen University and some problems, including that he told me to cook or go out, and also sent me messages, which was very unreasonable, including that he taught me investment at the beginning, then patiently taught me. Even I fill in the wrong a small detail are found, I let him send the cooking video he did not send me only sent dishes, I found the background is not the same, I was also suspicious, he said not just a meal! I was afraid that the "great God" would be offended by me, so I did not ask, and I even suspected for a few minutes and then ignored it.

(2) Mired in "spiritual PUA"

Let's start with how the liar gained my trust step by step. I did not believe him at the beginning, and as soon as I showed my doubts, he said, "I will not talk nonsense, I will prove myself with action and strength first," "You have to trust my technology to help you recover the previous p2p losses," or directly asked for a phone call. When he added me, he said that it was the first time he added friends on the whole country, and when he sent me his work card, he said that it was the only time in his life that he issued a work card, so I believed him. I mentioned the voice to talk at least four or five times, each time was rejected by him, saying that the signal near the airport was not good, and after refusing, he said some words about how to get along with children and positive energy, I was soft, and continued to talk, saying that he has been honest with me to let me see his strength and action, help me turn over, he also did a happy thing, etc., etc. Makes me feel like I'm wrong to ask again. In addition to these, the reason to really trust a liar is that, on the one hand, he can explore the most desired things in your heart, and then unconditionally give you all, he can see all the good in you, let you take down all your defenses, he has really to help you, understand you, care about you, your desire, and then give you all you want, you lack, he can give you. Teach you a sense of the world, take you to new areas, draw you a beautiful blueprint for the future that you can imagine and can't imagine, let you look forward to the future and look forward to, all these, he gave you, you think that you have finally met a noble person and can give you a future you want. On the one hand, he'll lend me money to test the waters, and you don't know, none of this is real.

In this way, slowly gained my trust and then began to let me to the fake platform from 1000 yuan began to invest money, just started to invest a little, I said I have no money, the liar said a few days of good market funds less I can not turn over, he borrowed me 120,000 to let me make up some more, this half month market, want me to make more money, help me to make back p2p losses before, when I also doubted, Then I was blinded by the money I made, and I put all my doubts behind me. After all kinds of encouragement and coercion to lure me to borrow network loans, I began to feel uncomfortable, had to admit that liar words are powerful, feel can not find money is their own life failure, but also want to prove themselves. I felt like I was crazy at that time to borrow money, money, it is nearly a million money ah, not a bunch of numbers ah, I can't imagine why would be brainwashed by a liar to this point, without their own bottom line and sanity, IQ is negative, completely without their own thinking, what the liar said is what, those days in addition to sleeping busy home, Just talking to scammers and making money.

Give a few examples to say how powerful the trickster's words are, it is estimated that a very systematic training of psychology, spiritual PUA and the weakness of human nature of these courses, perhaps I overestimate the trickster, on the cultural level of the trickster, can you understand? The liar will very PUA, will be good or bad words to force you to do according to what he said, such as asking you to send a good morning to him in the morning, so that he feels that he has a friend, such as: I said I don't want to finance anymore, want to invest in friends, he will say: A project to achieve 98% understanding can be invested, I said the entity is stable, he said that investment is risky, housing prices fall like this, the raw material market will be very good? I said that it was the project of the old leader for more than ten years, and people were not happy if they did not talk about it, he would say that the old leader would not bully you? Get angry if you don't invest? At that time, I felt that these words were really brainwashing, and the liar let you borrow what you can show that you are not willing to? Yeah, but after you show it, he'll use other words to get you to eventually do what he says, as long as you keep talking to him. One of the trickster's great tricks is that when you show that you are unhappy or unwilling, he can tell you to make you feel that it is your fault that you are unhappy. He will be very enthusiastic to talk, and then suddenly "well, OK, I know" such a few words to reply to you, when you do not want to he will be soft and hard, he is so hard to help me, how do I not work hard to fight for time, if I say he is I am wrong.

For example, I was once let me go to several platforms for loans, I am very reluctant to be unhappy, said very reluctant, the liar said do not believe my network finance so blank? Many people want to borrow can not borrow, there are resources do not need to be wasted, said that every 8 minutes to make money behind the back of how many hours he paid to stare at the big market eyes are almost wasted have no lunch break, want me to make more money, later the pressure will be less, and then I gave in again, and convince me to borrow money from friends, borrow, say I am popular, trustworthy, can not borrow, Let you see that many friends are useless, it is important to be around people are dogs, if I complain about friends, he will say: some people want to help you but have the heart to be powerless, can not blame others! The one who trusts me the most. Well, I'd like to kill myself. I'm really getting used to that. Also, probably most of the victims have been forced to send naked photos and threatened, this liar pretended to be a very gentleman, not even beyond the normal relationship, very polite, which means to be nice to you, to watch him, to help you and so on. Therefore, as long as the liar is targeted, do not delete or discover the scam, sooner or later will be pulled into the spiritual PUA scam, of course, the liar also has the level of business points.

(3) I experienced the pig killing dish

After this experience, I defined myself as spiritually dead once. Next to illness and death, I think nothing can be greater than this setback. This more or less changed my life. The old me doesn't exist anymore, even though I'm trying so hard to get her back. What was I like in the past? I am particularly fond of beautiful things, such as studying delicious food after work, following dramas and movies, playing billiards and eating delicious food with my children on weekends, regularly buying and taking care of my own plants and cleaning my house, and suddenly looking up at the blue sky or beautiful gingko leaves, I would be happy to share with my friends, and I like to stare into a daziness. I also have a lot of dreams and travel plans. I want to carry a bag and see the world. Maybe it is because I was too silly and naive before, thinking that the world is beautiful, that people are very kind, it will be so easy to be cheated by liars. What about me after this? In this half month, I did not want to meet with any friends, the circle of friends was closed, others' lives had nothing to do with me anymore, all the photos of myself on social platforms were deleted, all the profile pictures were changed, at first I thought I could not survive, when I knew I was cheated, I really had the idea of dying, thinking about the pain of my children and family, my son had a suicidal mother, and gave up the idea of suicide. But there is no interest in doing anything, just want to lie in bed. As time goes by, I feel like I'm getting better, although I can't go back to the past